British man arrested in raid on ‘bestiality farm’
APRIL 20, 2010
thefirstpost.co.uk
A British tourist, Stephen Clarke, 51, is reported to have been charged with animal cruelty after being arrested during a raid on an alleged 'bestiality farm' in Washington State, on the US Pacific coast, which allegedly catered to people who want to have sex with animals.
Situated in Whatcom County near the Canadian border, the farm was run by a horse trainer and convicted smuggler Douglas Spink. According to the Vancouver Sun, Spink was arrested along with Clarke after investigators followed up an online advertisement for the farm. "They were promoting tourism of this nature for bestiality," said Whatcom County Sheriff Bill Elfo.
The police who arrived on the scene first have described what they discovered as "truly bizarre". As well as dozens of dogs and horses, there were mice "that had had their tails cut off, were smothered in Vaseline and had string tied around them". Also found at the scene were images of a man, alleged to be Clarke, having sex with several large-breed dogs. According to Sheriff Elfo, the horses and dogs, which included a Great Dane, have been taken into protective custody while the mice have been euthanized.
Clarke is being held in Whatcom County Jail while three possible charges of first-degree animal cruelty are investigated, according to the Bellingham Herald. Spink, who had only recently been released after being caught with 375lb of cocaine, is also in custody.
Both men face jail sentences of up to five years after bestiality was made a Class C felony in Washington State in 2006. This was in response to a local case the previous year in which a 45-year-old man died after having sex with a horse in Enumclaw, Washington. When police searched his property they found hundreds of videos depicting men having sex with horses.
Edward Smith with one of his former partners Man admits having sex with 1,000 cars
A man who claims to have had sex with 1,000 cars has defended his "romantic" feelings towards vehicles. Edward Smith, who lives with his current "girlfriend" – a white Volkswagen Beetle named Vanilla, insisted that he was not "sick" and had no desire to change his ways.
"I appreciate beauty and I go a little bit beyond appreciating the beauty of a car only to the point of what I feel is an expression of love," he said. "Maybe I'm a little bit off the wall but when I see movies like Herbie and Knight Rider, where cars become loveable, huggable characters it's just wonderful. I'm a romantic. I write poetry about cars, I sing to them and talk to them just like a girlfriend. I know what's in my heart and I have no desire to change." He added: "I'm not sick and I don't want to hurt anyone, cars are just my preference."
Mr Smith, 57, first had sex with a car at the age of 15, and claims he has never been attracted to women or men. But his wandering eye has spread beyond cars to other vehicles. He says that his most intense sexual experience was "making love" to the helicopter from 1980s TV hit Airwolf.
As well as Vanilla, he regularly spends time with his other vehicles – a 1973 Opal GT, named Cinnamon, and 1993 Ford Ranger Splash, named Ginger. Before Vanilla, he had a five-year relationship with Victoria, a 1969 VW Beetle he bought from a family of Jehovah's Witnesses. But he confesses that many of the cars he has had sex with have belonged to strangers or car showrooms.
His last relationship with a woman was 12 years ago - and he could not bring himself to consummate it, although he did have sex with girls in his younger days. Mr Smith, from Washington state in the US, kept quiet about his secret fetish for years, but agreed to be interviewed as part of a channel Five documentary into “mechaphilia”. He is shown meeting other enthusiasts at a rally in California
Talking about how his unusual passion developed, Mr Smith said: "It's something that grew as a part of me when I was a kid and I could not shake it. I just loved cute cars right from the beginning, but over the years it got stronger once I got into my teenage years and was my first having sexual urges. When I turned 13 and the famous Corvette Stingray came about, that car was pure sex and just an incredible machine. I wanted it. I didn't fully understand it myself except that I know I'm not hurting anyone and I do not intend to."
He added: "There are moments way out in the middle of nowhere when I see a little car parked and I swear it needs loving. There have been certain cars that attracted me and I would wait until night time, creep up to them and just hug and kiss them. As far as women go, they never really interested me much. And I'm not gay.”
Mr Smith is now part of a global community of more than 500 “car lovers” brought together by internet forums.
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This story's a few years old, but it will never get old really - rusty at worst...
Woman dies after dog sex in Limerick
July 8th 2011
joe.ie
A 43-year old woman died after suffering a massive allergic reaction brought on after she had sex with a dog in Limerick, Ireland. The woman, a mother of four children, suffered the reaction to the dog’s semen after willingly engaging in sex acts with the Alsatian dog in a house in the Patrickswell area of the county.
The woman passed away in October 2008, shortly after intercourse with the dog, and after a three-year investigation it was confirmed that her death occurred due to an adverse reaction suffered after having sex with the animal. An ambulance was called to an address in Patickswell at approximately 7.30pm on the night that she died and rushed the woman to the Mid-Western Hospital, where she passed away shortly after 8pm.
A source told The Star last night that the unfortunate woman involved came in contact with a man who provided the dog on an internet chatroom. “Both these people would have been visiting bestiality websites and at some stage it appears they agreed to meet up for sex,” the source said. “The Alsatian then entered the picture and it appears that intercourse took place between the lady in question and the dog on the night that she died.”
The source confirmed that Gardai who had examined the scene seized an Alsation dog that has been kept in quarantine ever since. Disturbingly, the source added that the dog “appeared to have been groomed” to have sex with women. “This was a particularly bizarre and upsetting course,” said the source. “It genuinely was a shocker...you think you’ve seen it all but then something like this comes along and you’re left scratching your head all over again.”
Man accused of having sex with pool raft had also violated inflatable pumpkin
A Hamilton (Ohio) man has been arrested after being accused of engaging in sexual conduct with a pink blow up swimming pool raft. Edwin Charles Tobergta, 32, is charged with one count of public indecency.
Tobergta was arrested at his home early Sunday morning. According to the arrest report, Tobergta stole the raft and was observed by a neighbor engaging in sexual conduct with it. When the neighbor yelled at Tobergta, he stopped, pulled up his pants, and threw the raft over a fence.
According to court records, he has four other public indecency charges in Hamilton Municipal Court and another in Butler County. In one public indecency case in 2002, he was caught having sex with an inflatable pumpkin that was part of a Halloween display. Tobergta told police he was having sex with the raft because has a problem and needs help. He asked officers to not send him to prison, but he was taken to the Butler County Jail.
Man 'breaches order banning him from dressing like a schoolgirl in public'
A cross-dresser has breached an anti-social behaviour order (ASBO) which bans him from wearing a schoolgirl's uniform, a court has heard. Peter Trigger, 62, was given a five-year ASBO in December 2008 banning him from wearing a skirt or showing bare legs on school days between 8.30am and 10am and between 2.45pm and 4pm.
Northampton Magistrates’ Court heard that Trigger, from Thorplands, Northampton, was alleged to have been near a school in the town in June wearing a girl’s school uniform - including a skirt, and a Northampton Academy blazer. Colin McGregor, prosecuting, said Trigger had been charged with breaching the first condition of his ASBO which bans him from wearing a skirt.
Mr McGregor said: ‘He was described as wearing a girl’s school uniform with the distinctive bright blue Northampton Academy blazer in the particular area at the relevant time.’ Trigger, who appeared in court wearing a black wig, denied breaching his ASBO and has elected for a trial at the magistrates’ court next year.
He had been given a suspended sentence for flashing in February 2009, but was jailed in October 2010 when Northampton magistrates changed the sentence to eight weeks’ imprisonment. He was released from jail last November after High Court judges said it was wrong to have locked him up for indecent exposure. Trigger is also prohibited from acting in a manner likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress.
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I'm not sure if this is about sexuality or just strangeness...
Engaged couple discover they are brother and sister when their parents meet just before wedding
Stewart Maclean
3rd November 2011
An engaged couple who dated for five years have been left in turmoil after their families met and they discovered they were brother and sister. The woman, who is due to give birth next month, is devastated by the discovery that the father of her child is her brother.
The couple, who met at university, had decided they wanted to introduce their single parent families to each other before they got married. But at the meeting it emerged they were brother and sister who had been separated as small children. The unnamed South African couple are still in shock after making the discovery last Saturday.
The country's Sowetan newspaper reported that the siblings had been raised separately after their mother and father went through an acrimonious divorce. It reported: 'Their parents separated when the woman was eight months old and the man was two years old. The man's father said he dumped his wife in 1983 because she was cheating on him. The girl was raised by her mother, while her brother was raised by his father. Neither of them knew they had a sibling.'
THE POWER OF GENETIC SEXUAL ATTRACTION
Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) is a term that describes the phenomenon of sexual attraction between close relatives, such as siblings, first and second cousins or a parent and offspring who first meet as adults. It is not the same as incest, though this is what it is called if a sexual relationship is then entered into.
The term GSA was coined 30 years ago by American Barbara Gonyo. She wrote a book about the lust she felt for the adult son she had given up for adoption 26 years earlier. She never acted on her feelings.
GSA is rare between people raised together in early childhood due to a reverse sexual imprinting known as the Westermarck effect, which desensitizes them from sexual attraction. Experts believe that this effect evolved to prevent inbreeding.
The Sowetan reported that the children grew up separately with their single parents near the towns of Nelspruit and Bushbuckbridge, which lie 50 miles apart in South Africa's eastern Mpumalanga province. They reportedly met again at university in 2007 and fell in love.
Their two families did not meet throughout their five-year relationship, until they were brought together last week to discuss wedding arrangements. In many African cultures it is traditional for the family of a male partner to pay a lobola, or 'bride price', to that of his fiancée. In doing so, the two families normally arrange a summit at which they are formally introduced and able to conduct the negotiations. But the couple's plans were derailed when their parents came face to face and revealed their bombshell.
The woman told the Sowetan she was devastated by the revelation. She said: 'It was love at first sight. We were studying together at Tshwane University of Technology in Nelspruit. When I first saw him, we connected. We fell in love and since that day, we never looked back. All we wanted to do was just to have a family and many kids.
'So you can imagine how shocked we were when they broke the news. We are going to have a child together. We do not know what we will tell him when he grows up.'
The couple said they had decided to split after hearing the news and were discussing how to handle the shock with their separated parents. The man added: 'We can't think straight at the moment and will just take everything one step at a time.'
Incest remains one of society's last taboos and is an unthinkable concept to most people. Yet research by the British Medical Journal showed that half of those separated from relatives at a young age experience strong sexual feelings when they are reunited.
Psychiatrists believe the natural repulsion brothers and sisters feel growing up together as children acts as an inhibitor to incest. But those who miss out on this time can develop powerful, obsessive feelings for their sibling in adulthood.
A raccoon has bitten off a pervert's penis as he was trying to rape the animal. Alexander Kirilov, 44, was on a drunken weekend with pals when he leapt on the terrified animal. "When I saw the raccoon I thought I'd have some fun," he told stunned casualty surgeons in Moscow.
Now Russian plastic surgeons are trying to restore his mangled manhood. "He's been told they can get things working again but they can't sew back on what the raccoon bit off. That's gone forever so there isn't going to be much for them to work with," said one friend.
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Born This Way: Sympathy and Science for Those Who Want to Have Sex with Children
Cord Jefferson
gawker.com
It's not easy to listen to Terry talk about the time he had sex with a seven-year-old girl. But after his psychotherapist put us in touch, he agreed to lay it all out for me during a phone call and email, and I was enthralled the way one might stare at a man falling from a bridge. Terry is 38, a small-business owner, and deeply religious—he ends all our correspondence by saying, "Blessings to you, Cord"—but back then when it happened Terry was 20 and a meth head. He was living with his then-wife, his marriage to whom had made him the co-guardian of her two nieces and a nephew. The one niece was a baby, but the other was seven, and it wasn't long before Terry, addicted and in a marriage he calls "abusive," fell for his niece and began a sexual relationship with her.
It started with him walking around the house naked with an erection, making sure to amble past the little girl and inspire her curiosity. After doing that a couple times, Terry began to masturbate with the door open. When his niece would come to watch, Terry would tell her that what they were doing was a secret that she couldn't tell anyone. "In my mind, I had the thought that I would never hurt her and that she would grow up trusting me," Terry said. He says he wanted her to look up to him.
The third time Terry masturbated in front of his niece, he did it while she was in the room, and he played a pornographic movie on the TV. "Do you want to try what they're doing?" he asked her, motioning to the woman riding the man onscreen. His niece said yes, and she took off her shorts before straddling him. To avoid getting too graphic, Terry said he knew almost immediately that he was going to injure the girl if he went any further—"she was so small," is how he puts it. "That's when the reality clicked in and I grabbed her and lifted her off of me and sat her next to me on the couch," he says. "I got up and walked out of the room saying, ‘Lord, what am I doing! Lord, forgive me for what I have done!'"
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When Penn State football coach Jerry Sandusky was arrested last year and charged with 52 counts of molesting young boys, America's universal hatred for pedophiles was once again put on prominent display. A society is defined by what it despises as much as what it loves, and though the United States has a history of a great many scorned communities, none is as broadly reviled as men who have sex with children. When Sandusky was finally convicted earlier this year, Twitter exploded with people wishing for him to be raped or killed while incarcerated, both of which are good possibilities in our country's prison system. Outside of jail, it's not uncommon for average citizens to harass and assault pedophiles, crimes which courts have been known to ignore.
Then there's the problem of finding homes for pedophiles who are arrested and eventually put back into communities. In Florida, where Miami-Dade County has grown increasingly restrictive about where people who commit sexual crimes can live, the department of corrections once housed a small group of pedophiles under a bridge, like real-life trolls. Elsewhere in America, with neighborhoods both informed and alarmed by a growing number of sex-offender tracking sites, it's now become easier than ever to harass and intimidate a pedophile in your neighborhood until he moves away. But to where? Nobody seems to care as long as it's not near them.
In an ABC News article from 2003, a corrections officer from Los Angeles told reporter Michael S. James that imprisoned pedophiles "usually don't make it" without protective custody. Leslie Walker, a prisoner's rights activist, told James, "[Child sex offenders] are at risk of being murdered, having their food taken, having their cells defecated and urinated in. Their life is truly a living hell." Good, most people will say. But there is a growing number of researchers, many of them out of Canada, whose work suggests that pedophilia is an illness deserving of the public's sympathy the way any brain disorder is. Some of the scientists say pedophilia is a sexual orientation, meaning that it's unchangeable, regardless of how much jail time or beatings or therapy someone is dealt. Others have reason to believe that pedophiles are born that way, and that some of them will suffer through entire lives without hurting a single child. If this research proves to be correct, it should help shape both our public policy and our public attitude, so that we're protecting kids while also protecting pedophiles from angry mobs, cellmates, and themselves.
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On Valentine's Day of last year, Dr. Vernon Quinsey, then of Queen's University, and Dr. Hubert Van Gijseghem (pronounced HI-sheh-hem), who was retired from the University of Montreal, testified before the Canadian Parliament's "Committee on Justice and Human Rights." The topic of the day was mandatory minimum sentences for people convicted of sexual offenses against children. For about two hours, Quinsey and Van Gijseghem discussed what they believed would be the appropriate course of action when it came to imprisoning people caught with child pornography, or attempting to have sex with a minor. Though the topic of conversation was particularly controversial, the meeting was pleasant and kind in that stereotypically Canadian way. But amid all the niceties about policy, this, from Dr. Van Gijseghem, stood out:
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It is a fact that real pedophiles account for only 20 percent of sexual abusers. If we know that pedophiles are not simply people who commit a small offence from time to time but rather are grappling with what is equivalent to a sexual orientation just like another individual may be grappling with heterosexuality or even homosexuality, and if we agree on the fact that true pedophiles have an exclusive preference for children, which is the same as having a sexual orientation, everyone knows that there is no such thing as real therapy. You cannot change this person's sexual orientation.
What Van Gijseghem meant by "real pedophiles" is the definition most of the scientists I spoke to use and the definition we'll use throughout this article. That is, people—the overwhelming majority of whom are men—who have an unwavering sexual attraction to prepubescent children. When you start to read a lot about pedophilia, you realize that the dialogue gets muddied because so many laymen use the term "pedophile" to mean anyone who sexualizes a child. But a 21-year-old who has intercourse with a 16-year-old, while not a good decision maker, is probably not a pedophile. Nor is someone who, say, exposes himself to a 5-year-old boy necessarily a pedophile. They may have committed a pedophilic act, but unless they have a clear preference for undeveloped children the way heterosexual men have for women, they are not pedophiles.
Some pedophiles will suffer through entire lives without hurting a single child.
Van Gijseghem and Quinsey's point on that afternoon in February was also one of semantics. When I call Van Gijseghem in the middle of August, he tells me that he got a lot of hate mail from people who thought him using the term "sexual orientation" meant he was equating raping children with consensual sex between adults. "They said, ‘You bastard! You are treating pedophilia like a normal human function,'" says Van Gijseghem. "I can understand these criticisms, but I'm not using the term sexual orientation to mean that at all."
Van Gjiseghem says what he and his colleagues mean by sexual orientation is a person's inborn and unalterable sexual preference, irrespective of whether that preference is harmful to others or not. Currently, there is no significant longitudinal evidence that pedophiles can be made to not be attracted to children, and thus it can be defined as their orientation. And if pedophilia is a sexual orientation, that also means it's futile to send pedophiles to prison in an effort to alter their attractions. Doing so is akin to sending a homosexual child off to a religious-based institution that claims it can "pray the gay away."
"You are telling me that even if we were to impose a five-year minimum on people it would not solve the problem," asked a concerned Marc Lemay, an MP from Quebec, during the February testimony. "Yes, the risk is high," said Van Gijseghem. Lemay would later say, "What you are telling us today, with all due respect, is frightening."
Something that might help mitigate Lemay's fright is that viewing pedophilia as a sexual orientation might help us rationally deal with it. In his January 2012 paper "Is Pedophilia a Sexual Orientation?" published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, forensic psychologist Michael Seto writes, "Viewing pedophilia as a sexual orientation would suggest that treatment is more likely to be effective if it focuses on self-regulation skills (in order to effectively manage pedophilic urges, thoughts, etc.) than on trying to change sexual preferences."
In other words, if you can't beat pedophiles, it's best to try and help them help themselves.
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Imagine a world in which admitting your attraction to busty women or tall men led to alienation, jail time, or your murder. Older gay men can probably remember such an era, but nowadays most sexual appetites have been mainstreamed to the point of banality. Pedophiles, for obvious reasons, don't enjoy the same kind of tolerance, and thus it seems as if they may be locked forever in a sexual prison from the moment they're born.
Dr. James Cantor is the Head of Research in the Sexual Behaviours Clinic at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, Canada's largest mental health and teaching hospital. He's also an associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Toronto's school of medicine. He's been working on better understanding pedophiles for about 12 years now using a variety of methods. In the Kurt Freund Phallometric Lab, Cantor and his colleagues can attach an instrument to sex offenders' penises in order to gauge their responses to a variety of sexually charged images. The Freund lab, Cantor tells me during a phone call last week, is one of the few in the world that can measure increases in penis volume rather than just increases in circumference.
Cantor's work also focuses on running sex offenders through what he calls "a battery of neuropsychological exams," and brain scans on top of that, thus providing one of science's most well-rounded looks at how a pedophile is made. That there are a lot of unanswered questions in Cantor's field of research can't be overstated, but his initial findings are noteworthy.
Cantor says his first indication that there was something different about pedophiles' brains was that, compared to teleiophile offenders (sex offenders who victimized adults), pedophiles' IQs were about 10 points lower on average. He also found that the age of a pedophile's victim was directly proportional to the pedophile's IQ—the younger the children, the lower the attacker's intelligence. "That was our first clue that the brain was somehow involved," says Cantor, adding that pedophiles also performed relatively poorly on memory tests.
Other patterns soon emerged: Pedophiles tended to be shorter than teleiophiles, which Cantor says told him "whatever's going on, it's not just the brain; it seems to be that the whole body isn't formed quite correctly." Pedophiles were more likely to have failed grades in school. They were also more likely to have sustained head injuries before the age of 13. All of this helped lead Cantor to the suspicion that not only did pedophilia have to do with brain growth, it had to do with very early brain growth. After several years of amassing a catalogue of intriguing research, in 2008, Cantor published a paper [PDF] about what he tells me was the last clue that made him almost certain pedophilia is a prenatal issue: non-right-handedness.
"Handedness is often a useful indirect way of looking at a population and getting an idea of whether the brain formed properly," says Cantor. "Normally the left half of the brain develops more quickly and earlier than the other hemisphere of the brain, and that's what makes most people right-handed. But if something happens during development in utero—poor nutrition, prenatal stress, that kind of thing—the brain stops developing, so the other side of the brain starts to compensate."
In the general population, only about 8 to 12 percent of people are either not right-handed or ambidextrous. In Cantor's pedophile studies, nearly one third of the men were non-right-handed.
"The only other groups that have rates of non-right-handedness that are that high are schizophrenics, people with bipolar disorder, people with autism," says Cantor. "Other major behavioral disorders for which there is no longer any debate that there is some physiological contribution. The only thing that affects handedness is the brain structure."
With that as his last finding, Cantor felt he had enough evidence to justify scanning pedophiles' brains to see how they differed from average brains. Before he started performing the scans, he'd heard two dominating theories: The first was that pedophiles had an issue with their frontal lobes, the part of the brain where consciousness and self-control functioning is held. People with damaged frontal lobes tend to be more disinhibited and impulsive than the rest of us, which might lead a person to make terrible sexual decisions. But Cantor says he never agreed with that theory, because he never believed pedophilia was about suppressing urges. "If you ask any guy on the street how he controls his desire to have sex with children, he'll look at you like you have three heads," he says. "Most men don't have that desire to control."
The other school of thought said that pedophilia was the result of a problem with the temporal lobe, the section of the brain that controls our most basic survival motivators. Cantor calls them "the four Fs": feeding, flight, fighting, and fornicating. He says that if he had been forced to choose between the two theories, he would have chosen this one "because sex is in this mix." As it turned out, however, everyone was wrong.
"There was nothing significant in the frontal lobes or temporal lobes," says Cantor. "It turned out the differences weren't in the grey matter. The differences were in the white matter."
"The white matter" is the shorthand term for groupings of myelinated axons and glial cells that transmit signals throughout the gray matter that composes the cerebrum. Think of the gray matter like the houses on a specific electricity grid and the white matter like the cabling connecting those houses to the grid.
"There doesn't seem to be a pedophilia center in the brain," says Cantor. "Instead, there's either not enough of this cabling, not the correct kind of cabling, or it's wiring the wrong areas together, so instead of the brain evoking protective or parental instincts when these people see children, it's instead evoking sexual instincts. There's almost literally a crossed wiring."
The good news, according to Cantor, is that it if they can figure out how the wiring gets crossed, they might be able to suggest ways pregnant mothers can help ensure their baby is unlikely to be born a pedophile. "It is quite possible that one or more components of the process are related to prenatal stresses like poor maternal nutrition, toxin exposure, ill health, or poor health care," he says. "If so, then improving health and health care in general may reduce the numbers of people vulnerable to developing pedophilia, as well as other problems."
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Every expert with whom I spoke wanted to get one thing straight: Being a pedophile is different from being a child molester. Sex-advice columnist Dan Savage, who occasionally fields letters from people fighting off pedophilic urges, calls these people "gold-star pedophiles." In April of this year, for instance, he got this letter from a man who was attracted to children but claimed to have never acted on that desire (emphasis Savage's):
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You know when Dan says to someone with a weird (to others) fetish, or some kind of physical peculiarity, or whatever, that they should "hold on, there's someone... plenty of someones... out there for you, give it time, put yourself out there," and so on? That doesn't apply to us. Not only should we not put ourselves out there... but I walk around every awful day of my life knowing that THERE IS NO ONE OUT THERE FOR ME.
There are among us men who live their whole lives wanting to have sex with children but never doing it. America might have more of these men if we eased our taboos on anyone even admitting an attraction to kids. Consider that in Germany there is Prevention Project Dunkelfeld, an organization that, like a suicide hotline, offers free counseling to anyone struggling with thoughts of molesting a child. "Dunkelfeld" translates to "dark field," and PPD's founders say their goal is to make sure pedophiles come out of the shadows and get the help they need before they offend. A sample PPD tagline is representative of the kind of sympathy with which it approaches the problem: "You are not guilty because of your sexual desire, but you are responsible for your sexual behavior. There is help."
"You are not guilty because of your sexual desire, but you are responsible for your sexual behavior."
Canada, too, has Circles of Support and Accountability, an association of volunteers who are advised by professionals on how to help convicted sex offenders reacclimate to society. While some COSA programs are beginning to pop up around the States, we have not nearly as many as our northern neighbors, who originally concocted the COSA model. Further hindering America's progress are our "mandatory report" laws, some of which say that therapists are required to contact authorities if they have even a "reasonable suspicion" that a child is being mistreated somewhere. For example, California's mandatory report policy says very openly that "no evidence or proof is required prior to making a report" [PDF], making it perfectly acceptable to call the cops on a person solely for talking about sexual fantasies regarding children. Naturally, to avoid this alarmist scrutiny, most pedophiles sit silently on their secret desires, which is at best unhealthy for them, and at worst dangerous for children.
If we can get pedophiles to begin acknowledging their dangerous desires, experts like Dawn Horwitz-Person, a psychotherapist in Chico, California, who specializes in treating sex offenders, believes we can help pedophiles "learn how to manage their desires the way alcoholics do." Horwitz-Person focuses on a very 12-step-like manner of therapy and acceptance focusing not on changing pedophiles' basic desires, but "changing how they think about things." "I try to get them to develop empathy and to get them to recognize the risk factors in their life," she says. "I try to get them to understand that when they feed their brains a lot of deviant sexual fantasies, it's going to lead to them acting on those fantasies." There is no panacea, says Horwitz-Person, there is only process.
For parents wondering what to do while society and politicians get their ducks in a row when it comes to pedophiles, Dr. Cantor says that one important way to keep children safe is by disabusing them of the notion that strangers are the primary concern when it comes to molestation. "By far, the most common perpetrators of sex offenses against children are people known to the kid," he says. "Not talking to strangers is a good lesson for children, but then their guard is down to where the actual danger is."
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The old adage is that the true mark of a society is how it treats the weakest in its ranks. Blacks, women, Latinos, gays and lesbians, and others are still in no way on wholly equal footing in America. But they're also not nearly as lowly and cursed as men attracted to children. One imagines that if Jesus ever came to Earth, he'd embrace the poor, the blind, the lepers, and, yes, the pedophiles. As a self-professed "progressive," when I think of the world I'd like to live in, I like to imagine that one day I'd be OK with a man like Terry moving next door to me and my children. I like to think that I could welcome him in for dinner, break bread with him, and offer him the same blessings he's offered me time and again. And what hurts to admit, even knowing all I know now, is that I'm not positive I could do that.
Man sues dominatrix for hitting him too hard
thelocal.de
10th Oct 2012
A 49-year-old undertaker has sued a prostitute he regularly paid for sex, saying he didn't want to be whipped or have wax dripped on him. "I just wanted some erotic role-play, not to be dominated," said the 49-year-old undertaker.
He told a district court in Cologne that the dominatrix he hired did not let him go after the agreed-upon two hours, and held a kitchen knife to his throat while he was tied up on the bed, reported the Kölner Stadt Anzeiger. "She wanted my debit card and the PIN," the man said.
He claimed she became aggressive after using cocaine and forced him to swallow some as well, before calling a friend, who allegedly withdrew €980 with his card. The man travelled from a psychiatric institute to give his testimony and was accompanied by a psychiatrist.
“My clients pay me to hurt them,” the dominatrix told the court. She said he paid her €400 for the first two hours, but then he wanted her to stay longer, and told her to bring over a transsexual. She said she got his debit card and PIN to make sure she was paid. "I do this so often, I've had bad experiences," said the mother of four.
The court ruled that because both were found to have large amounts of cocaine in their blood, it was possible one or both of them were hallucinating, and it was impossible to know what really happened that night. The dominatrix was made to pay €200 to the "Weisser Ring," an aid organisation that helps victims of crime.
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